Change can be considered as one of the most intimidating things in the world. However, if you hesitate to change or transform yourself even when needed you become a stale person. As a result, you abandon your passions, back down from taking risks, and practically refrain from living your life.
How do you find the passion that will transform you?
According to The 5-second rule by Mel Robbins, your first cue to find your passion is your curiosity and envy. If you’re curious about something important you should chase after it. On the other hand, envy can be rather motivational too. Don’t get me wrong, envy shouldn’t be the kick in your ass that gives you the strength to continue. However, envy can be harnessed to see what other people have that you lack. This way, you can pinpoint what you need in life. This can be simple as living in your dream country to a bigger goal such as finding your inner peace.
Your passion might contradict what you have previously been doing or are currently involved in. This doesn’t matter at all. If you feel like you’re beating a dead horse with your day job, start nitpicking your life. Start questioning.
Don’t take these as just words of wisdom. Say you love photography. If you have no know-how on the subject, take a class, find a tutorial online, follow a video on YouTube. There are so many things you can do to start over.
Remember that even after you've started chasing your passion, unexpected circumstances will always stand by to put you down like a log. So have faith and keep moving. If you fall you’ll get back up. Like we’ve discussed in the 1st chapter, you’re allowed mistakes.
Transforming Yourself for good
Motivation isn’t alone going to get you closer to your goal. Every recipe needs the right ingredients. Here are the ways you can transform yourself by getting a hold of your passion, behaviors, and emotions.
1. Familiarize where you want to change.
Now, think of yourself as a sculpture that’s waiting to be carved and shaped. So it’s your responsibility to dig out what you really want to change in yourself. Then you can figure out what exactly you can do to transform.
Let’s take an example, say you need to lose weight. So, the bigger picture must be seen. You cannot lose weight by only focusing on your arms or your abs. Like so, think of each step of your transformation and how you’re going to manipulate each facet. If you’re expecting a new job, plan how you’d handle finances till you get it.
2. Set realistic goals
Transformation takes time. So, don’t expect it to happen overnight. You cannot possibly wake up one day and change everything. Think positive, yet be realistic and be patient with yourself. For example, don’t set a goal like “I won’t be angry anymore”, because you will be angry, because we’re human after all!
Instead, set small goals or affirmations like, “I will create small goals for myself every day and try not to get overwhelmed even if I am unable to complete those tasks ”.
3. Surround yourself with the right people
Keep in mind that some of these transformations need teamwork too. In other words, your loved ones might support you and pull you down in this journey. However, the key is to be strong and keep at it.
If you have friends who’d always say Yes to anything, then you need to rethink your clique. You need supportive people to uplift you and tell you the truth like a band-aid that’s being ripped off right then and there.
2. Leave your comfort zone
Comfort zones are soothing, great for improving mental health, and easy on your consciousness. But, if you want to transform into something better, be willing to take risks. If you want to learn to play an instrument, buy one, take a class, or DIY. If you’re not even thinking to look at a music instrument store, then you’re not ready.
“We do not need magic to transform our world. We carry all the power we need inside ourselves already. We have the power to imagine better.” -The Quotes Master -
In a nutshell…
Transforming yourself demands a leap of faith. You cannot quit a job without actually believing in yourself and having faith that you can pull through. However, support your vision with bits and pieces that complete the big puzzle. For instance, have a backup plan if you cannot pay your mortgage or support your family.
Passion is what drives us. So, pinpoint what drives you and never leave it.
Just when you think you need to take a break, look in a mirror and reflect and take a breather and try again tomorrow.
Being consistent is more than enough.